Hey folks...just came across this lovely article in the Sunday Times. Cudnt stop myself from posting it. Another Ctrl C + Ctrl V stuff from me,
There are times when we r timid n shy about expressing the love we feel. For fear of embarrasing the other person, or ourselves, we hesitate to say the actual words 'I Love You' So we try to communicate the idea in other words. We say Take Care or don't drive too fast or be good.
But really these are just other ways of saying I love you. You are important to me. I care wat happens to u. I don't want u to get hurt. We r sometimes very starnge people. The only thing we want to say, is the one thing we dont say. And yet bcoz the feeling is so real, and the need to say it is so strong, we r driven to use other words n signs to say what we really mean. And many times the meaning never gets communicated at all n the other person is left feeling unloved n unwanted.
Therefore, we have to listen for love in the words that people are saying to us. Sometimes the explicit words are necessary but more often, the manner of saying things is even more important. A joyous insult carries more affection n love within the sentiments which r expressed insincerely. An impulsive hug says 'I love u' even though the words might be saying very different.
The problem is listening for love is that we don't always understand the language of love which the other person is using. A girl may use tears or emotions to say wat she wants to say, and her boyfriend may not understand her bcoz he expects her to be talking his language.
Simon and Garfunkel wrote that very haunting song, The Sound Of Silence. It is a terrifying picture of r modern world, a world without communication n without love. We have to listen for love in those around us. If we listen intently we will discover that we r a lot more loved than we realise :)
But really these are just other ways of saying I love you. You are important to me. I care wat happens to u. I don't want u to get hurt. We r sometimes very starnge people. The only thing we want to say, is the one thing we dont say. And yet bcoz the feeling is so real, and the need to say it is so strong, we r driven to use other words n signs to say what we really mean. And many times the meaning never gets communicated at all n the other person is left feeling unloved n unwanted.
Therefore, we have to listen for love in the words that people are saying to us. Sometimes the explicit words are necessary but more often, the manner of saying things is even more important. A joyous insult carries more affection n love within the sentiments which r expressed insincerely. An impulsive hug says 'I love u' even though the words might be saying very different.
The problem is listening for love is that we don't always understand the language of love which the other person is using. A girl may use tears or emotions to say wat she wants to say, and her boyfriend may not understand her bcoz he expects her to be talking his language.
Simon and Garfunkel wrote that very haunting song, The Sound Of Silence. It is a terrifying picture of r modern world, a world without communication n without love. We have to listen for love in those around us. If we listen intently we will discover that we r a lot more loved than we realise :)
